Wednesday, October 27, 2010

christmas

so this is going to sound incredibly pathetic, but my goal since august has been to be pregnant by october. and i should probably ovulate (TMI, sorry!!) this week, so the race is on! i really really really want to announce our pregnancy on christmas day with our family around. i have been really persistent with getting my family and even some of hubby's family at our house for christmas eve. i know it's a lot of pressure on my uterus (ha!), but we are trying ultra hard to be pregnant this month so we can have a special announcement. it's so rare that all of my family is in one place, and it'd be even more special if it was in our home while celebrating family. i think i would hypothetically be 10 weeks along at the time and i'd feel comfortable announcing then.

obviously it's totally possible that won't happen and i can definitely accept that. but i think it would be great if it did and i'm going to be optimistic! the way my mind works these days is...

"if i get pregnant in august, out baby will be due in may."
"if i get pregnant in september, our baby will be due in june."
"if i get pregnant in october, our baby will be due in july."

i love july birthdays, my dad's birthday is at the end of the month. for some reason i generally dislike march, august, or early september birthdays. is that weird!? i feel like august and early september get passed up easily because it's when school starts. no idea what's with my aversion to march birthdays. i want our child's birthday to be on a day everyone will remember and not while they're scrambling for school supplies or christmas presents, etc.

so wish us luck this week!! it's month three, so maybe we'll be in that 59-68% group with a christmas eve announcement. one can hope!!

Monday, October 25, 2010

stats

if you know me at all, you know i'm a planner. although my husband is incredibly spontaneous and tries to bring out that side of me, i am obsessed with numbers and knowing things. i just have to know EVERYTHING at ALL times. or at least be prepared based on whatever tiny detail i can find. and i will scrounge my little heart out to find out everything i can on a subject. megs and i have concluded that we share an addictive personality.

so given my addictive personality, it should come as no shock that statistics like "most healthy couples will conceive within 4 or 5 months" make me crazy. seriously, does most mean 51%? or 74%? and does the most lean more towards 4 months or 5? are these stats based on 24 year old gals or anyone ranging 18 to 40? do these numbers include women who are just plain infertile? i am a scientist, peeps. i know all about control groups and variables. i need to know how these play into your "most healthy couples will conceive 4 or 5 months" business.

today i finally found statistics that i like. thank you babycenter.com

of all couples trying to conceive, here's about how long it takes:
  • 30 percent get pregnant the first cycle (about one month)
  • 59 percent get pregnant within three cycles (about three months)
  • 80 percent get pregnant within six cycles (about six months)
  • 85 percent get pregnant within 12 cycles (about one year)
  • 91 percent get pregnant within 36 cycles (about three years)
  • 93 to 95 percent get pregnant within 48 cycles (about four years)
and better yet, they even give you stats on how your chances increase when you're as much of a planner as i am!


in one study, the pregnancy rates of couples who timed intercourse with ovulation were faster than typically seen among couples trying to conceive:
  • 38 percent were pregnant after one cycle
  • 68 percent were pregnant after three cycles
  • 81 percent were pregnant after six cycles
  • 92 percent were pregnant after 12 cycles
we know we're not in that 30-38% because it didn't happen on our first try. i'm crossing my fingers we're in the 59-68%! we won't know for a few weeks, but i have my hopes. i'm definitely not freaking out about fertility at this point, i just like having those numbers in my pocket to ponder on. and happily ponder i shall. :-)

Sunday, October 24, 2010

how it began

right now this blog is on fully private settings... i think! i've only invited my sister laura to read it because she's one of the very few people who know my husband and i are trying to get pregnant.

after watching suzanne's diary for nicholas this morning, i decided i want to document my potential journey to motherhood. right now it's in the "potential" stages because we're not pregnant yet!

so today marks 78 days since i've been off of birth control. aka 2 months and 16 days. that means that we are on our third month of trying to conceive. right now we are focusing on having fun with getting pregnant although i'd be lying if i didn't admit the excel-obsessive soul within me wasn't getting her way too! i've been charting through an app on my phone as well as a google doc. i won't go into the nitty gritty details of temperature taking, peeing on sticks, seducing my hubs at opportune times and reading books about how to get pregnant. but i'm doing it with hopes that planning will give us the best possible chance of getting pregnant!

so how did this little journey start? well. i always thought i'd have kids. but when i was 18, i had an abortion. my husband and i had only been together 6 months when we found out i was pregnant and i terminated the pregnancy because i was in college and not yet ready to be a mom. since that event, i realized that i had priorities in life and a kid simply wasn't on that list. i wanted a big beautiful house, a great (paying) job, my dream wedding, tons of vacations, and all the other things gals in their 20's pine for. hubby and i saw so many relationships seemingly ruined by pregnancy. obviously we were outsiders giving our perspective, but it just seemed like so many people were going through financial hardships and bickering all the time, it wasn't what we wanted to sign up for.

and then one fateful night in july, we were laying in bed and my husband tapped my arm.

hubby: jill? are you awake?
me: yeah, sure, what's up, love?
hubby: i want a baby.
me: what!?!?
hubby: i want a kid.

and that's how it began. at first i was a little baffled and thought that surely it was a phase. but the more we talked about it, the more i opened up to the idea of having a little bambino. hubby insisted that he wanted a baby right away and i insisted that we wait to start trying to conceive until summer 2011. i wanted to have my professional engineering license before having a child. i thought my bosses wouldn't be supportive of me having a kid so early in my career. when i told my husband that, he said "it feels like your firm is deciding when we'll have a family." so really, how fair is that!? it's not. we're both emotionally ready for a baby. we're both financially(-ish) ready for a baby. (because really, who's ever totally prepared?) so why the heck not have a baby!?

and that's where we're at right now. ready to have a baby. ready to get pregnant. and this little blog will hopefully document our journey to hopefully getting pregnant and following the pregnancy itself. wish us luck!